Abortion is the spontaneous termination of pregnancy before the 20th week. Although the developing baby in the womb is not yet perceived as an individual by the community, it may become a major trauma for couples preparing to become parents. In order to survive this period, it is necessary to get expert help. From Memorial Hospital Uz. Klinig Psychologist Ayşe Elif Orhon said, bilgi She gave information about the negative effects of miscarriages on women's psychology and advised couples who wanted to have children.
Abortions cause guilt in women
Abortions reveal a sense of loss and the associated frustration and mourning process. When it comes to recurrent miscarriages, frustration, a sense of failure, a feeling of not reaching the desired and desired goal, and the idea that this will never happen will increase. This situation adversely affects the woman's approach to motherhood, her sense of femininity, and the commitment of her husband and family. It may occur that the environment blames the woman for this. This may cause intense guilt in the individual. As a result of the changing reactions of the woman's environment, marriage of spouses may be in danger. Because both the woman and her husband and their environment can go to blame each other mutually.
The fact that couples talk about this constantly increases the problems in the family.
The idea of not being a full family can lead to problems in marriage. With recurrent miscarriages, the only areas of speech of the spouses become infants, which narrow the communication between the spouses and other areas of speech, which may cause domestic problems. At the same time, as a result of recurrent miscarriages, the woman starts to believe that she can never be a mother and she starts to worry that she will have a miscarriage in her next pregnancy. This leads to a very uneasy pregnancy. Since they believe that miscarriages are due to them (because of what they do or do not do), they are trying to restrain themselves in their next pregnancy. In this case, when the abortion is encountered again, intense guilt in the individual says, “Where did I go wrong? What more could I do? Yoğun
Don't ask “Why me”
The predominantly recurrent abortions increase rather than reduce the desire to have children. The most important reason for this is motivation to be more successful than motivation to be a mother. Abortions reveal a sense of inadequacy in women. Especially if there is no physiological factor causing recurrent miscarriages, this sense of inadequacy becomes more prominent. The urge to succeed to cover this emotion arises. At the same time, mainly in our society, the main element of being a family is the child, and it is common to think that a child cannot be a family without children. For this reason, they do not feel like a full family. In addition, the impact of environmental factors and the woman's involvement in the process of questioning her, ”Why me?” Leads them to try again and again to have children. Repeated abortions are almost never seen in giving up the idea of having children.
Get expert help
Abortion, especially recurrent abortions, is a very traumatic process for women. In this process, spousal and family support is of great importance. Thinking that he will struggle with this situation alone and preventing mourning (discourse such as worrying, crying, exaggerating) may cause the individual to experience this trauma more difficult. At the same time, individuals need to get help from a couple of therapists who are specialized in their field. Because this problem is not the problem of the couple but the individual. Although pregnancy is identified with women, it is important that men accompany this condition.