These movements, which are described by some as spoiled children, may increase rather than decrease over time. Particularly in the first days of school, they need to pay particular attention to the behavior of the whole family, not just the child. Otherwise, these problems, which seem to be small, can come up against the child as psychological problems in the future. In this case, the most important task falls to parents. Acıbadem Kadıköy Hospital Child Psychiatry Specialist Emel Bellibaş makes special suggestions for families who start school.
WHAT THE MOTHER FATHER DOES 1- Don't find your child's concerns ridiculous
1- Don't find your child's concerns ridiculous
It is only natural that the child going to school for the first time is concerned about this situation and shows shyness. First of all, understand his experiences and tell him that you do not find this situation "ridiculous". Associate school with the growth of your child and that it is now ready for education; ona You're old enough to go to school now, that makes me very happy kur and make beautiful and relaxing sentences.
2- Feel yourself ready first
When your child's school term arrives, you must first be ready for it. Remember that your mental health is just as important as your child's. Ne What will he do at school in this state? Will they crush him ”or nasıl how will he leave me? We never left ki man reflecting your concerns and difficulties in the separation process to the child makes the adaptation process difficult.
3- Set up meal and sleep times before starting school
Don't leave your school preparation to the last day. If possible, tell your child that he / she will go to school some time before school starts. Also streamline your child's meal and sleep times. In preschool period, children eat when they want to go to bed when they come to sleep. With the start of school, the child faces a lot of rules. The rules he encounters put him under stress. In order to reduce this stress, arrange the child's needs such as eating, gathering rooms, watching television and sleeping at certain times before starting school.
4- Send your child to school on the first day
Don't make holiday plans that go into the first week of school. It is very important that the child is in school on the first day. Initially, he feels relieved to see that he has similar feelings with other children.
5- Do not accompany the child during the first days of school
In the first days of school, the child can be accompanied by a parent. However, it is understandable that grandmother, grandmother or grandfathers also come to school, but it is not quite right for the child. The fact that a child has six to seven adults at the head makes it unnatural. In addition, over-care of the child may make it difficult to adjust to school.
6- Don't make going to school a bargaining topic
Indicate that this is not possible even if the child is reluctant to go to school. Don't let this make it a bargaining subject.
7- Go to school a little early in the first days of school
The fact that you are at school a little before the end time in the first days prevents your child from worrying. You can even ask your teacher to pick up your child from school just before the bell rings. If you are going to be late or someone else is going to take it away from school, feel free to say it. Playing games, lying, maybe saving that day. However, it disrupts your communication in the long run.
8- Don't reward your child for going to school
There is no doubt that it is not easy for a parent to entrust the child to his / her teacher and to move away from school. Don't make your child feel it. Do not extend the farewell moment and limit stopping and hugging. Never reward your child for going to school. Just remind him that you have seen your child really grow up, that you are proud of him and that you will always be there for him.
AVOID THESE BEHAVIORS!
- Do not leave your child's questions unanswered; make the necessary explanations. Not responding to the child's questions, ignoring or delaying the issue further increases the question marks in the child's head.
- Don't pity your child. A It is mandatory to go to school. We're actually sending you to school for him. May
- Stop worrying about him. Your intense anxiety can cause your child to worry.
- Do not go into too much and unnecessary details to comfort your child.
- Do not visit the school unnecessary and timeless. Teachers can also make uneasy visits.
- Do not refrain from sending a child who is afraid of school or has problems in school, who has stomach ache, nausea or vomiting because of these complaints.
- Don't take long reports although it's not an organic problem. Do not take long holidays so the child can relax.
- Don't make fun of your child's school fear. “Yes, you're right, there are huge monsters there, maybe they will eat you,” as well as sentences that you do not understand the situation of the child will show and reinforce the fear.
WRONG START TO SCHOOL CAN CAUSE ADOLESCENCE PROBLEMS
Failure to attend school may cause problems in academic, social and emotional development. When your child does not go to school, he / she cannot develop his / her mental capacity and acquire basic academic skills. It also has social problems. He may have difficulty in establishing a healthy relationship with his peers. Inability to adapt to the teacher and other adults in the school may cause him / her to not contact with adults other than his / her parents. This mismatch can be brought up again with the problem of not being able to communicate in adolescence. After a period of time, children who are away from school and social environment may experience performance anxiety, introversion, and avoid or reduce their academic goals. With an increase in the feeling of loneliness, they can become adolescents who do not leave their homes and depend on the internet. Deterioration in body perceptions, eating disorders, obesity, anger bursts are also common in these children.