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Just asking this question means you're on the right track; it shows that you understand how tough school can be and that you're conscious of how parents can pass on negative attitudes to their children. One of the most difficult things for parents to do is to separate their childhood from their child's life. We tend to think they will experience things just as we did. But it's important to know as a parent that our feelings are ours and only ours — our children might feel something similar, but their experience is going to be different.
When you notice your own emotions bubbling up as your child enters school or encounters difficulty there, pay attention to them, because they may interfere with your ability to help your child solve his problem. I always advise parents to find someone — a friend, a clergyman, another parent — to listen as they talk about their feelings regarding their child's school experiences. Don't do this in front of your child, though; these are your feelings, and it won't help your child if he has to worry about them. Talk with another adult about what happened to you in your childhood that might be related to what your child is going through, and how you felt when you experienced something similar. We all need a chance to be fully heard on the things we never had enough time to tell anyone about, or things that are hard for others to understand. Sometimes parents really need a good cry when their child is going off to school or when their child has a difficult incident with a teacher. I always recommend that parents get a listener and feel pleased with themselves if they can have a good laugh or a good cry while telling that person about their feelings and experiences.
After you've done that, let your child know that you will listen to everything he wants to tell you. As long as we stand by our children, ready to listen to the things they find difficult, then even when they feel upset with school, if they have a place to laugh and cry and talk about what happened, the feelings won't stick with them. You need to know that one difficult day for your child, or even a series of difficult days, doesn't mean that she is going to develop the same negative feelings that you did. She won't, as long as you're there to listen, to play with her, to help her cry about things that are hard, and to help her think about ways to handle them.
Having you as an ally makes a huge difference in how a child tackles the challenges in her life. You have the chance to take an active part in making school a good experience for her and to help her deal with the hard parts of school. After all, there are always going to be hard parts. The fact is, children can heal from the hurts that they get and from the difficult times they have, as long as someone will listen and allow them to express their feelings.